Saturday, February 2, 2019
His law is love and His gospel is peace.
Chains shall He break for the slave is our brother;
And in His name all oppression shall cease.
Sweet hymns of joy in grateful chorus raise we,
Let all within us praise His holy name.
Sunday, August 21, 2016
There are many approaches to counseling and psychotherapy. Each approach, and each therapist, answers the question, “How does healing happen?” somewhat differently. If I were to articulate my approach succinctly, I believe that healing happens in the context of being deeply known and understood such that we can understand ourselves (and others) and thereby grow as more whole people and gain the wisdom and courage to choose well for ourselves and for our relationships.
Dynamic psychotherapy is an orientation to therapy that facilitates this process. It is appreciated by clients because the experience of depth listening can uniquely address the deep and various parts of the self and relationships. This approach helps clients experience and resolve core developmental needs that so often contribute to unresolved relational, sexual or psychological issues. It can be used to address a variety of presenting problems, whether anxiety, depression, couples communication breakdowns, eating disorders, sexual addiction. Dynamic psychotherapy as a general orientation may incorporate interventions from other traditions such as cognitive behavioral exercises, EMDR, body work, expressive therapy exercises, etc. It can be utilized in individual as well as couples work.
In the context of a consultation, I would be happy to assess what approach might be most beneficial to address your concerns. Please contact me by phone (714-262-4445, ext. 2) or email (Catherine@soulrestorationproject.org) to set up an appointment.
Wednesday, April 20, 2016
When couples get stuck in destructive patterns of fighting, calling a time-out can help interrupt it.
A time-out is a structured format that interrupts a negative cycle by allowing time for the body and the brain to recover from the physiological arousal of fight/flight/freeze that can get activated in the face of conflict. With a time-out a person can more likely transition to using the part of the brain (the pre-frontal cortex) that is capable of thoughtfulness, awareness and care.
There are important elements that help a "time out" be successful, rather than an exercise in frustration or failure. For example, essential to "calling a time-out" is an honest commitment to resume the conversation at a specific time. This helps the partner who would rather continue the conversation/fight feel some reassurance that the time-out isn't "just an avoidance tactic."
A time-out can give a couple a needed break to come back to each other in a more constructive way. But calling a time-out isn't easy... it requires agreement, discipline and practice. If you are needing a tool to help decrease destructive conflicts and increase connection, give it a try!
When I work with couples we read through the following structured way of calling a time-out, consider how it might be helpful, how it might be difficult, and then, if they think it will be beneficial, they agree to practice the following the steps.
Successfully implementing this has helped many couples feel more confident, loving and secure. Let me know how it goes! -- Catherine Morrill
So, here it is...