I see a lot
of parallels between our division as a nation and the divisions that bring
couples to counseling. Politically-- accusations,
wounds, misinformation and fear abound.
Arrogance and prejudices are exposed.
Likewise when a couple comes for counseling, they often bring a story of
a descent into hostility, polarization, fear, hurt and distrust. They are committed but don’t know how to heal.
It is difficult to love (or like) “the
other”… whether “the other” is different in political views, gender, parenting
style, cultural background or temperament.
It is difficult to overcome deep wounds and longstanding patterns.
Our goal at
the Soul Restoration Project is to help couples (as well as individuals and
families) grow in awareness, honesty, vulnerability, faithfulness and
responsiveness to “the other(s)” that they love. Charisma and arrogance only hinder this work of
personal growth. Rather it is in quiet
connections, in tears, in thoughtfulness and in new commitments, that we develop
emotionally... And become more
vulnerable and resilient. More loving. The healing of our communities depends on
it.
When I think
of the Christmas story this year, I think about how Jesus didn’t come in the
power of charismatic persuasion, money or military might. Instead Jesus came as a little baby in the
context of the faithful humility and vulnerability of ordinary humans, Mary and
Joseph… ordinary people participating in this most extraordinary story. The contrast-- between the many very ordinary
elements of the story and the amazing, supernatural Restoration that was emerging
in this quiet ordinariness at the same time-- is beautiful and powerful.
The
classic Christmas hymn, O Holy Night,
speaks beautifully of Jesus’ ordinariness and vulnerability, that “He knows our
need, to our weakness is no stranger…” This
humble beginning of God being with us makes even more beautiful the amazing
supernatural story unfolding. The lyrics
continue,
Truly
He taught us to love one another;
His law is love and His gospel is peace.
Chains shall He break for the slave is our brother;
And in His name all oppression shall cease.
Sweet hymns of joy in grateful chorus raise we,
Let all within us praise His holy name.
His law is love and His gospel is peace.
Chains shall He break for the slave is our brother;
And in His name all oppression shall cease.
Sweet hymns of joy in grateful chorus raise we,
Let all within us praise His holy name.
When we
participate in the beauty of the humble and quiet but very powerful and freeing
work of God – as therapist, client or partners-- it leads to freedom and
gratitude. This Restoration is holy
ground. We are thankful for all who participate with us in
this endeavor.
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