Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Christmas 2013: Anticipating Comfort

As Christmas approaches, I am enjoying the signs and symbols of the holidays… the candles, the lights, the shopping for gifts, the food, the gatherings, the music, the childlike whimsy.  These signs and symbols mediate comfort to my soul.  This year, it struck me, how in this season of Advent (literally “coming”), we are awaiting the coming of real comfort. 
Real comfort is not to be confused with false comfort.  False comforts avoid our real sorrows with whatever… shopping, food, internet, busyness, etc.  Real comfort is different.  It touches our real sorrow.  To experience real comfort in the face of loss and uncertainty is a great gift.  It is perhaps the greatest Gift, known now in part, to be known completely when we are fully with God, forever.    
Immanuel, God with us, comforts in many ways.  Perhaps we experience real comfort comes through a song that touches our soul, or through something we read or a mystical sense of God’s presence.  Perhaps we experience comfort through the care of a beloved friend.  In our work as therapists at SRP, one of our goals is to be with people in such a way that they experience comfort in their pain, disappointments and challenges.  Our hope is that this way of being, this relationship, will be a conduit of true comfort, meeting each person at their point of need. 

Comfort soothes in our time of affliction or distress.  Sometimes our distress is on the surface.  We find ourselves in touch with our loss.  For many of us this is uncomfortable; we feel naked.  Such vulnerability is risky.  We often fear being judged and we judge ourselves.  We feel weak.  Or we fear the pain will overwhelm us.  Other times our wounds and fears remain hidden below the surface driving us unaware.  Experiencing comfort is complex… and vulnerable.  

To receive true comfort we need to experience our true sorrow.  We are invited into the darkness of our loss and uncertainty with the promise that Comfort can be experienced.  We may struggle in the darkness.  In our fallen world, and to varying degrees in our personal histories, comfort is hit or miss.  If every time we had a need we experienced comfort, we could more easily trust that our needs would be met.  Advent holds the promise of the coming of Comfort.  It is promised.  This place of darkness, of waiting for comfort, is not an easy place, but it can be a holy experience, a place of courage and faith… and the doorway into comforting connection.   
Don Diva and I are both aware of our need for comfort this Christmas season.  For Don, this has been a year of transition.  He stepped out in faith and vision as he transitioned from the ministry where he served full-time for over 15 years to his work full-time as a therapist with the SRP.  His prior ministry was the context where he and his wife Erin met, married and began their family.  It was home base.  This exciting and planned change holds the promise of new areas of service and the next growth step in his vocation as a therapist, but it comes with the uncertainties inherent in change.  He needs comfort to steady himself and his family in the transition. 


For me, this year involved many losses and changes related to my father being diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease).  The losses for my father and for our family have been manifold.  Shortly after my dad was diagnosed I connected with a friend’s friend whose father had passed away from ALS.  She welcomed me to “a club of amazing people and resources” in the ALS community, that, as she put it, “no one wanted to join.”  Comfort comes through many sources.  God’s comfort is incarnate in so many ways.   

Awaiting true comfort is central to Advent.  Consider the beginning of Handel’s Messiah, taken from Isaiah 40, a passage that prophesies the coming of Jesus,

Comfort, comfort ye my people, Speak ye peace, thus saith our God;
Comfort those who sit in darkness, Mourning ‘neath their sorrows’ load;
Speak ye to Jerusalem Of the peace that waits for them,
Tell her that her sins I cover, And her warfare now is over. 

Jesus came into our world in all of the vulnerability of a baby to bring comfort to a distressed world.  He ushered in a new age of Comfort.  Likewise Jesus’ comfort comes to us in our darkness… in our losses and uncertainty. 

I hope that you experience His Comfort this Christmas as we celebrate the promise of His coming Comfort, 

Catherine

1 comment:

  1. An excellent post, this. Sometimes when life is hard, it is easy to forget that there is real comfort afoot. So, now I say, "Be jubilant my feet! Our God is marching on."

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